Yea it's about to be really.. real right now (as per usual) so hear me out!
Okay, so you ever had people you love and/or care about that has problems and they just be ready to vent and dump all these problems they been going through right out the blue? Like... no warning sign sis? Likeeee, you didn't ask if I was mentally capable for what you were preparing to dump at me or even ask if it's okay? No permission at all, just straight dumping!
That's something we need to improve on, because some people are just not in the right mental space to be hearing about more problems. Most likely, people like us will be there, but please give a heads up and ASK if it is okay and if not now then it can be scheduled for later.
Another pet peeve is dumping at those that are natural problem solvers and then they end up giving sincere advice, yet... be told they didn't need your advice, they just wanted you to hear them vent.
It's just sooo important to communicate that as well because, natural problem solvers are just going to immediately think you want your problem to be solved. It's also not fair that a person just chose to dump their problems out the blue and then get mad that you tried to be some sort of help.
One should be able to communicate that they would like to vent, seek permission and also communicate whether they would like to just vent only or vent and seek sincere advice.
We all have things we be going through, but genuinely checking on each other's mental health is top priority! It be the ones that be there for literally everyone, that get checked on the least.
